If you could grasp and comprehend, there is no need to perform to gain my love it would transform your life. All the attempts to merit and win my acceptance undermine your understanding that my love for you is unconditional. You do not need to do anything to be loved. The only response you need to make are loving me and love others as I have loved you.
The real transformation of your heart and life is impossible when it is your human effort and not relying on my power to change you. Stop the performance of trying to earn my love and be who I created you to “be,” my child. I created you to love and be loved and remember love people for who they are not based on their performance toward you either. Let the grace of God abound in you and offer that grace and love to others.
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV
“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12 NIV